turn down拒絕的八卦，YOUTUBE、PTT和Yahoo名人娛樂都在討論

有啲公司自視過高，壓完價之後覺得candidate一定要接受，其實人哋手上有offer唔通又話你知咩？

見過一次candidate被壓價，然後一口拒絕offer，對方HR急到夜晚不斷打去問原因，又反覆討價還價，最後提出一個比原本expected salary更高嘅價，但係candidate不為所動，頭也不回再次turn down，HR發爛渣講咗句：「你都攞晒彩啦！而家比你填嘅expected salary多一千，仲想點呀？」

Candidate解釋：「唔係錢嘅問題，係你撳我價嘅過程當中好唔尊重，多次質疑我嘅能力同經驗，不斷嘗試踩低我，其實我唔明白，CV有晒我資料，如果你覺得我咁不堪，點解當初要約我上嚟見工呢？最後又提高返個offer，咁咪即係自打嘴巴？我覺得入嚟做都冇意思。」

最近我個headhunt舊同事都分享咗一則奇遇，一位國企HR不忿candidate拒絕offer，夾硬要對方回覆email講原因，仲恐嚇話唔交代清楚就永久blacklist唔再錄用。

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你是猶豫不決的人還是當機立斷的人?
(例如換髮型XD)
Are you an indecisive person?
(such as changing hairstyle)
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後三張是在店裡完整的髮型加上開到爆的美肌app😂
The last three photos were taken right after styling with strong beautifying app😂
Hair: @kenny_mpalace
Translation: @benkongenglish
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偶爾我會猶豫不決
小事如選晚餐 選照片 挑衣服 是否參加某活動
大事如換工作 作明顯影響未來的重大決定
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猶豫不決的我會找不同的人聊聊
聽聽大家的想法和建議
甚至會擲筊問卜
最後才能勉強作出抉擇
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我發現 這似乎是有點欺騙自己的行為
可能是因為「不願意」或「不膽敢」相信自己心中的決定
一個已經存在 但連自己都沒發現的決定
於是向外尋求支持
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心中已有一個隱晦的答案
當他人持相反意見時
我會嚴肅地拒絕他 認真地提出這個方案的缺點
當他人持相同意見時
我會升起一絲難以被自己和他人察覺的喜悅
並勉為其難地說「你也這樣覺得噢～ 可是...」
硬是要說說另一個方案的優點
像一個小小孩在父母面前扯謊一樣赤裸而逗趣
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當然與外界的激盪 內在的沈澱
有助於讓隱晦的答案慢慢清晰
但若是
對神明換了一百個問法只為擲出聖筊
和朋友討論半天只為對方支持自己既有的答案
是否能省事地相信自己
勇敢地作自己愛的決定
也坦然地接受後續精彩的化學變化
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I am indecisive sometimes.
I struggle over trivial matters like what to wear, what to have for dinner, which photo to choose and whether to attend an event.
I am torn between more important things like switching jobs and decisions that affect my future as well
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Being indecisive, I usually talk it over with many different people.
A decision is finally made after listening to everyone’s suggestions and thoughts, even fortune-telling or casting divination blocks at times.
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Is it a cheating to myself?
This may be attributed to the unwillingness or lack of confidence in my own decision——an ambiguous decision that is already in my subconscious, and not noticed even by myself.
So I seek help from others.
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Given that I have an answer already,
I turn people down when they hold opposite ideas and point out the flaws in their options; while I am secretly delighted when they reaffirm my choice.
I will even pretend to be reluctant and name some pros of the other option, interesting and as transparent as a child lying in front of his parents.
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Of course, this kind of opinion exchanging with others or calmness in myself might be helpful in making the answer clear.
However, if I cast the divination blocks a hundred times just to get a yes from God;
If I discuss it with my friends for the whole day just to get their reaffirmation.
Why not simply trust in myself and make my own decision,
and accept the possibilities that brought by it?

【我親愛的Zoom視訊客人們】
To My Dear Zoom Clients

我忍了真的⋯⋯真的⋯⋯很久，今天過後實在忍無可忍，一定要叮嚀所有過去和未來的客人們。

我年紀很大了，受不了太大的刺激。

拜託，你們可以Zoom好來嗎？😓😑

一、Zoom視訊的視角 = 拍護照照的視角

護照自2020年起就已成為古董，但大家這一生應該有拍過證件照吧！

對了，就是要頭髮整齊，讓我看到你的雙耳、雙眼、鼻子、嘴巴、頸項和肩膀，到胸部。

我批八字時，需要看整個面相。不要讓你一半的臉掉出鏡頭外，這樣很像鍾無艷，也不要嘴巴不見掉，這樣我很像在跟一條羅漢魚視訊。

我看面相包括看你的嘴巴、牙齒和說話時的嘴形。是的，看相就是需要那麼仔細。

如果你的螢幕太低，那就找書本或舊報紙，把螢幕墊高一點。別讓我整一個小時半只看到你的雙下巴，會把你的面相比例給看錯。

不要一直告訴我不好意思，方法是人想出來的。

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二、光線

太暗，我看你如見鬼。
太亮，我會看不清你的膚色。
拉開窗簾，不要背向陽光。
有必要的話，就直接開燈！

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三、勿放什麼椰樹沙灘/金門大橋的虛擬背景圖

什麼虛擬背景圖都不要放啦～

我的家美最重要，我不在乎你的家美不美，我只是來看命的。

如果你的Wi-Fi不是很強，電腦功能不是很厲害，這類的虛擬背景圖會讓你的視訊畫面卡卡的。

有時你轉個身，整個右邊不見了，或部份的頭髮少了，讓我覺得我好像在看恐怖片，嚇人啊～

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四、環境和聲音

有些海外客人其實非常用心。為了與我視訊，特別去買有麥克風的耳機🎧，讓我能更清楚的聽到他們的聲音。😍

沒有使用耳機和麥克風的客人，往往他們的聲音會有種空氣般的回音，如果他們本身講話又小聲，我的耳機聲量開滿，我還是聽得滿辛苦的

也有香港和馬來西亞客人租過會議室、鐘點房間或單人工作室，就是為了不受家人的干擾，能安心的與我視訊。😍

最有趣的是，去年新加坡阻斷措施時，有位男客人跑到屋外的走廊坐在地上與我視訊。只是外頭風聲有點大，我好幾次都聽不清楚他的聲音。

曾有客人在咖啡廳與我視訊。咖啡廳裡的高談闊論聲和器皿的敲擊聲，頻頻從我的耳機闖進我的耳朵，哇～我的耳朵那時真的是活受罪，還要裝一副氣定神閒的樣子。

天啊，兩次過後，我寧願退錢，也不再見這樣的客人了。耳朵只有一對，我要保護好啊！

在這裡聲明：一般我們買手機時的那種有麥克風的耳機，就已能視訊。沒有戴耳機和麥克風的客人，我一概會拒絕諮詢，把費用原銀奉還。

五、孩子

曾試過諮詢的前20分鐘，一直被女客人的小孩打擾，進來哭著要媽媽主持公道。

如果你家中有六歲以下的兒童，會時不時來敲你的門，我建議你還是先別約我。你這樣會分心，無法聽好我交代的事，而我也得一直等你去安撫你的孩子，就無法在限定時間內看完你的八字，這樣對誰都不公平。

六、我只見客人一人

這個規矩，從我一出道就定下來，也清楚的寫在網站上，根本不用一而再的來試探水溫。

但這兩個星期，還是有客人硬闖關，事先安排自己的配偶/孩子坐在電腦的另一面，要他們聽我講他的八字。

我從不改我的規矩，也沒有八字或風水是我非看不可的。

讀書這麼高，連自己的命都不能自己負責，這已經不是能改到命的人了。

你一定要你的配偶陪你聽，那你需要的不是我來教你改命，是你的配偶來安你的心。

將來若還有這樣的事，我會直接中斷視訊，把錢退回去。

七、「我第一次用Zoom！」

可是從報名那天到今天的諮詢，你有兩個月的時間去摸索。

兩個月，怎麼還是錯誤百出？因為客人根本沒有事先準備和練習。

結果我就這樣等了20分鐘，還得等對方下載軟件。

Zoom不難使用，但如果是你沒有花時間去摸索，就不要撒謊，直接說，我就直接退現錢。

品德是改命的資糧，不要為了自己能脫身就隨便編一個漏洞百出的謊，還說自己是好人。這...不會臉皮太厚了嗎？

小事都不願做好，絕對不會成大器。

八、暈車

有些客人用Ipad或手機來視訊。

重點是，他一支手拿著手機，一支手拿筆寫筆記。他一邊寫，另一支手就一邊搖晃。他做在床上，移動一下，手機就彷彿大海嘯幾下🌊

我一天如果見三個這樣客人，我的視線就搖晃了5個小時。工作完畢後，頭也會痛得厲害，無法完成晚上製片的工作。

沒有自拍器三腳架，也應該有些書本或東西來頂著手機。

各位，多點善心，為我著想一下吧⋯⋯

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To My Dear Zoom Clients

I have been enduring it for a really really long time. That's it! I am gonna put a stop to this after today and send out this reminder to all my past and future clients.

I am getting on in years, and cannot stand too much stimulation.

Please.... can you guys do a proper Zoom?

Number 1: Going on screen in Zoom = Taking a photograph for your passport.

Since 2020, the passport has become something of an antique but I believe everyone has taken some kind of ID photos! Yes, the ones with your neatly combed trusses where I can see both your ears, nose, mouth, neck, shoulder all the way to your chest.

I would like to see your full face during the Bazi Consultation. Please don't allow half your face to fall off the screen and you end up looking like Zhong Wu Yan! Please also don't hide your mouth making me feel like I am talking to a Arrowana.

When I analyze your facial features, it includes your mouth, teeth and the shape of your mouth while you are talking. Yes, it is down to such level of details.

If your PC / Laptop monitor is too low, please find a book or old newspapers and stack it on top. Please don't let me only see your double chin for that 1.5 hours, as I would probably get the proportion of your face wrong.

Don't keep telling me you are apologetic. Think of a way out.

Number 2: The background lighting.

Too dark, you risk looking like a ghost.

Too bright, I cannot figure out your skin color.

Draw open the curtains, but don't face your back to the sunlight.

If necessary, just turn on the lights!

Number 3: Background images of coconut trees on sandy beaches or the Golden Gate Bridge.

There is no need to put on a virtual background. I only care about how my hone looks, I am not bothered by yours. I am only here to see your Bazi.

If your WIFI signal or your PC / Laptop performance is poor, using the virtual background can often make your Zoom video choppy. Sometimes when you turn your body, one side of your body or some part of your hair will disappear. It's really like one of those spooky movies scaring the wits out of me.

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Number 4: Background environment and noise.

Some of my overseas clients really put in effort for our Zoom sessions. They bought a headset with a mic so that I can hear them properly and vice versa.

Those that did not use a earphone or a headset often sounded echo-ish, and if they spoke softly, I would have to turn on the volume on my side full throttle and still have a hard time trying to hear them.

There are some clients from Hong Kong and Malaysia who would rent meeting rooms, hotel rooms or private work spaces by the hour so as to reduce any disturbance from others and better focus on the Zoom session with me.

I recalled an interesting incident during the Circuit Breaker last year. A client from Singapore Zoom-ed with me along the corridor outside his house. Most of the time, I was hearing the howling of the winds rather than his voice.

Some clients sat themselves in coffee places for our session. These places are often filled with loud chatters and the clanging of cups and plates, and my ears suffered terribly. Yet, I have to continue to be seen as composed and attentive.

Goodness me, after 2 of such experiences, I decided that I rather refund these clients and never see them again. I have only 1 pair of ears and I want to protect them at all costs!

A normal earpiece that comes with the purchase of a handphone is good enough for Zoom video calls. For clients who do not have a earpiece/headset and a mic, I would end the consultation and refund the monies.

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Number 5: Children

There was once where a session with a female client was repeatedly disrupted by her kids, running in crying for their mother to settle their quarrels. If you have children below 6 years of age, and likely to interrupt our session, I suggest you don't book a consultation with me.

You will be distracted, unable to focus on my advice and I have to wait for you to clear up the situation with your children, eating into the allowable time for me to complete the consultation. This is unfair to both you and me.

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Number 6: I only meet one person, that is the Client.

I have set this requirement the day I stepped into this line of work, and it is clearly written in my booking form. There is no need to try your luck under any circumstances.

But in the space of 2 weeks, there were some clients who rode their luck and got their spouse / child to sit on the other side of the screen to listen in on our consultation.

I never change my stance, and there is no single client that I cannot afford to lose.

If you insist to have your spouse sit in, it is apparent that you do not need me to help transform your destiny. Rather you really need your spouse to put your heart at ease.

If such things happen the next time, I will end the session immediately and refund the fees.

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Number 7: "My first time using Zoom"

But you have 2 full months to prepare before our actual consultation. You did not end up wasting time exploring the software and I wasted 20 mins waiting for you to download the software.

Zoom is an easy software to use but if you did not spend the time to familiarize yourself with it, please quit the lies and tell me directly. I will refund the consultation fees on the spot.

Our moral ethics serve as the foundation for our transformation. Stop weaving web of lies to get out of sticky situations, and still claim that you are a good person. Isn't this too thick-skinned?

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Number 8: Giddy spells

Some clients use Ipad or their handphones for the Zoom session. Crucially, they hold the device with one hand, and take notes with the other. As they write, the other hand holding the phone becomes shaky. If he is doing that on his bed, his handphone would shake like a tsunami wave every time he changes his position.

If I see 3 such clients within a day, it would be 5 hours of shaking visuals for me. That would mean a splitting headache at the end of my work day, and not being able to work on my videos at night.

Even if you don't have a tripod stand, at least prop up the device with a book or something.

Please everyone, please be kind and have mercy on me......

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Author：KDrew
Composer：KDrew

I don't care about growing old
我不在乎會變老

We can turn down any road
我們可以拒絕任何一條路

As long as I can look in your eyes the entire time
只要我一直可以望向你的雙眼

I feel like were alone in a world that's so cold
我覺得這個冷漠的世界中我們如此孤獨

But I can say that I don't mind
但我可以說 我不介意

If you're by my side
如果你在我身旁

Yeah we might
我們可能

Fall fall fall fall fall
會墜落

We might get lost along the way
我們可能會在路上迷失

But we'll risk it
但是我們願意

All all all all all
承擔一切艱難險阻

Because fear can't shake our faith
因為恐懼不會撼動我們的信仰

Because we won't be defeated
因為我們不會被打敗

That's right you just keep on breathing
對 你只管繼續呼吸吧

Were going to fight until
我們要戰鬥

Ours souls don't search no more
直到我們的靈魂不再求索

And you know we won't be retreating
你知道我們不會撤退

Because in you I found a meaning
因為我在你身上找到了意義

We're going to fight until
我們要戰鬥

Our souls don't search no more
直到我們的靈魂不再求索

We're going to win in this game called love
我們要在這場叫做愛的戰鬥中獲勝

It's just something that I know
我知道一些事

And I could feel it in my bones
我從骨子裡都能感受到

That someday somehow Gonna stand in the light
不管怎樣 會有人站在光亮中

Yeah we might
我們可能

Fall fall fall fall
墜落

（Fall we might fall)
墜落 我們可能墜落

We might get lost along the way （along the way)
我們可能會在路上迷失

But we'll risk it
但我們會冒險

All all all all all （all all)
應對一切艱難險阻

Because fear can't shake our faith
因為恐懼不會撼動我們的信仰

Because we won't be defeated （no more）
因為我們不會被打敗

That's right you just keep on breathing
對 你只管繼續呼吸

We going to fight until Our souls don't search no more
我們要戰鬥 直到我們的靈魂不再求索

（no more)
不再

And you know we won't be retreating
你知道我們不會撤退

Because in you I found a meaning （my meaning girl)
因為我在你身上找到了意義

We are going to fight until Our souls don't search no more
我們要繼續戰鬥 直到我們的靈魂不再求索

We going to win in this game called love
我們會贏得這場叫愛的戰鬥

We going to win in this game called love Love
我們會贏得這場叫愛的戰鬥

We going to win in this game called love
我們會贏得這場叫愛的戰鬥

We going to win in this game called love
我們會贏得這場叫愛的戰鬥

We won't be defeated
我們不會被打倒

Ooh ooh ooh ooh

Because we won't be defeated （defeated)
因為我們不會被打敗

That's right you just keep on breathing （on breathing)
對 你只管繼續呼吸

We going to fight until Ours souls don't search no more
我們要戰鬥直到我們的靈魂不再求索

（more no more)
不再

And you know we won't be retreating
你知道我們不會撤退

Because in you I found a meaning （found my meaning girl)
因為我在你身上找到了意義

We are going to fight until
我們要戰鬥 直到

Our souls don't search no more
直到我們的靈魂不再求索

We going to win in this game of love
我們要贏得這場叫愛的戰爭

Oh oh oh

Oh oh ooh oh oh

Said we won't be defeated
我說我們不會被打敗
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