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PENIS | When you have a film crew at the house and your child proudly shows off the family portrait picture she just drew for them. 😂😂😂❤️
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Yes, that’s daddy with intestines and a giant penis while mama has a black eye (eyeliner). I’m sure they left with more questions than answers!! 😅😅
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The good news is, as a specialist and mama that’s passionate about teaching little ones protective behaviors, I think we can confirm that Ella Grace is fully immersed into the lesson.
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Some tips for teaching little ones protective behaviors:
❤️ You have the right to feel safe
❤️ It’s okay to say no (including touch, hug, kiss, pictures, being asked to do something you don’t want to do by relatives, friends, strangers or even other children)
❤️ Doctors or caretakers can only touch you on your private areas with the door open or with mama or daddy in the room. (I highly recommend that as soon as your child is independent enough to allow them the privacy to go to the bathroom, take showers, etc by themselves w supervision so it reiterates the idea that their private parts are only for them to touch)
❤️ Listen to your body (for little ones that don’t understand what a “gut” feeling is, this is an excellent way to teach them what a flight response looks and feels like when they feel threatened or if a situation isn’t safe - sweaty palms, fast heartbeat, feel like peeing or pooping, tummy ache, shaky, muscles are hard (tense), feel like crying or frozen
❤️ Role playing and educating and empowering them what to do if they are caught in a situation that doesn’t make them feel safe
❤️ We don’t do secrets (surprises are always revealed), bribes, threats, or lies
❤️ Private parts stay private
❤️ Your mouth is a private part too
❤️ Identify their safety network (5 people they can always tell or ask help from)
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Private parts shouldn’t be a topic that is shrouded with fear and secrecy or shame. Let’s empower and educate our little ones to proudly own, protect and love their bodies.
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This weekend, I had the privilege and honor of leading a host of educators from schools across Malaysia on two breakout sessions at the Leaps of Knowledge conference by FrogAsia :

1. Respectful Teaching in the Classroom
2. Protective Behaviors and Body Safety for Students and Teachers

The second workshop is a hard one to teach. It’s uncomfortable, it stirs up the ugly for some and makes the room heavy with that sick feeling in your stomach because these are your teeny tinies, your little ones, and these are the things that no one wants to talk about but everyone needs to.

But we have to start the conversations, work together, link arms, fight till your last breath and go down trying.

NO MEANS NO
Teach and role model your little one and students to respect each other’s boundaries and that no’s matter.

PRIVATE PARTS STAY PRIVATE
Anything covered by modest swimwear should stay private including in photos. When teaching about private parts, avoid nicknames and call body parts by their names. Breasts, penis, vagina, buttocks and mouths.

NO CLOSED DOORS
Doors only close if you’re alone and need privacy. If you’re with someone else, the doors always stay open. It protects both the adult and the child.

BUDDY SYSTEM
If you’re taking a student to the bathroom etc, always invite another child. Again, it keeps you and the child safe. It protects you by giving you a witness and it role models boundaries to a child and never to go alone w someone else.

SIDE HUGS AND HIGH FIVES
Physical contact should only be limited to side hugs and high fives

NO SECRETS
Predators groom their victims by teaching them to keep secrets.

LISTEN TO YOUR GUT
As an adult and a child and a mama, your gut is ALWAYS right. Listen to it.

LISTEN TO YOUR BODY
Teach your child a body’s threat response when it senses danger : sweaty, heart beats fast, eyes grow big, feels anxious and wants to cry, feels like running away, needs to pee or poop.

LISTEN TO YOUR CHILD
Pay attention and listen to the little things. Believe them. There is nothing so small or terrible that you can’t tell anyone is biggest thing we can teach them.

SAFETY NETWORK
Who are the protectors in your child’s life? Who are the five that will always hear him/her no matter what. Believe her, fight for him, build a shield wall for them.

Protective behaviors for teachers, parents, doctors, nurses, little ones. How do we put safeguards in place, how do we teach our littles body safety and that they have a right to feel safe at all times.

We advocate. We make loud noises in quiet places. We do the unpopular and the uncomfortable. We show up and stand up in the dark, together, always stronger, we build walls, we keep their innocence, we stay vigilant and banded together - regardless of race, gender, or title.

We stand together.

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