guess how much i love you中文的八卦，YOUTUBE和Yahoo名人娛樂都在討論

似乎黎真喎！！！

(Update: 中文繹版連結：https://www.facebook.com/329728177143445/posts/1800273350088913/)

“An open letter to Eric Kwok, and for everyone re homophobia, discrimination and bullying”

Dear Eric,

Imagine this. You are one of the contestants on a TV talent show. You are sitting in a room with other hopefuls and one of the judges walks into the room and demanded this: “Raise your hand if you are not homophobic.”

I’m very sure you will raise your hand.

You don’t have to answer me whether or not you really are homophobic. But stay with the feeling inside your mind. How do you feel?

Your feelings are most likely the same as the feelings of your contestants when you walked into a room and asked them to raise their hands to declare their sexual orientation publicly. Because in this day and age, homophobia is just as “controversial” as homosexuality, if not more.

The reason why I’m writing this open letter to you is because after reading your apology, I want to take the opportunity to address to you, and everyone out there, the need for proper etiquette regarding LGBT issues, and to address the forms of micro-aggression, bullying and discrimination the LGBT community faces everyday especially in the workplace.

I’m taking this incident seriously because from my personal experience, this is not just a one-time slip-up for you.

I remember long time ago I was so looking forward to meeting and working with you because you are, after all, Eric Kwok the great songwriter.

You were very friendly when we talked privately. Then I started to notice how once there were audiences, media or other people around and when the cameras were turned on, you would start making insinuating and demeaning gay jokes about me and in front of me. Jokes and comments even my closest friends wouldn’t dare to make in public.

At first, I didn’t really pay too much attention. I just brushed it off as juvenile and trivial. In fact, I had been so used to these jokes since growing up that I learned not to react much.

However, as time progressed and we worked on more occasions, the same thing would happen repeatedly. The teasing and the stereotypical gay jokes continued and you would make sure that the spotlight would fall on me afterwards. The jokes no longer felt light. They felt hostile, even vindictive.

In fact, it felt like bullying.

One of these incidents was well documented in tabloids back then and you can still look it up yourself on the internet.

I came to the realization that it was not just a one-time thing. I don’t know if it’s intentional or unintentional but it’s definitely a habit and a pattern.

So many questions would be in my mind every time after working with you. Why does Eric do that every time? Is he picking on me? Does he hate me? Is he homophobic? Does he think homosexuality is something funny? Does he do this to other people too? Did I do something that pissed him off? I remember I was nothing but courteous. So why do I deserve this?

I had no answers for all of these questions. All I knew was I became fearful of working with you, dreading what words would fall out of your mouth to put me in an awkwardly embarassing position. But still I tried to give you the benefit of the doubt. You’re from California you shouldn’t be homophobic. I even defended you in my head by telling myself to loosen up.

But it’s not just you. Throughout my years in the entertainment industry, I have encountered and endured so many chauvinistic “tough guys” who like to use homosexuality as a laughing stock or source of bad comedy which were all discriminating and demeaning, yet not funny.

It’s not only me. I’m sure many people of the LGBT community face this everyday in their workplace. People around them would claim their intentions were harmless but we all knew deep down that these “jokes” have the power to put people someone in an embarrassing, inferior and even threatening positions.

We kept quiet and tolerated. Sometimes we even felt obligated to laugh along just so we couldn’t afford to look “petty” or “stiff”, especially in front of people of higher authority and stature.

So Eric I want to ask you.

Why have you been so obsessed with my sexuality all these years?

Why are you so fascinated by other people’s sexuality?

Why is being gay such a huge issue to you even to this day that you had to make it the first thing you asked your contestants?

Why you also had to specifically make a post on social media about that fact you questioned people about their sexuality?

Why do you take so much pride publicly in your ability to guess who are the gay contestants even when they weren’t ready to share that information?

And most of all why do you find all this to be so funny?

To begin with one’s sexual orientation is a very personal thing which others have no right to intrude, even in the entertainment industry where you are supposed to be fine with “controversy”.

This is for you and everyone out there: using your power and authority to demand someone to declare his or her sexual orientation, especially in a work environment, is ancient, barbaric and unacceptable.

Kicking someone out of the closet is just pure evil.

The fact you did what you did, especially with your stature and on broadcast TV, is not only wrong, but also you are telling the Hong Kong audience that it’s alright to continue this form of intrusion and micro aggression that the LGBT community wants to see gone.

You’re leading a very poor example by giving Hong Kong audience the impression that being gay is still a taboo.

How are your contestants, who are boys of young age, going to offer new perspectives to the Hong Kong audience under your guidance if you perpetuate stereotyping and demonstrate to them that being gay is still an issue?

I feel sorry for any contestants who are in fact gay sitting in that room that day too. They must have been traumatized seeing the way you forced your inquisition. The impression you left them with is that the entertainment industry is still a very unfriendly place for gays. Is that what you want them to think?

But most of all, it’s the attitude, tone and manner with which you shared about this incident on social media, giving people the impression that any matter regarding sexual orientation is still something shameful and laughable, which is on top of list the thing that the LGBT community fights hard everyday to change.

When you said in your apology you “have great respect for gay people, especially their hard fight for equality” I became baffled as what you did, in the past to me or in that room to the boys, is the exact thing that makes the LGBT community’s ongoing fight for equality so difficult.

Putting people down, perpetuate stereotypes, heckling and ridiculing yet making it look OK is anything but liberal and respectful, or Californian. I don’t see any “entertainment values” that are of good taste if they are made up at the expense of other people’s struggle.

If this incident happened in America, where you grew up, you would’ve gotten yourself in such hot waters that you probably can’t get out of.

I just want you and everyone out there to know that it’s not okay. And it never was. Never will be.

Being “as liberal as it gets” is great. Having gay friends is great too. Having dinner with your gay friends is absolutely fabulous! Playing all these cards to avoid being labelled as “homophobic” is very convenient. But having class, empathy, kindness and authentic respect is a completely different territory. These don’t come automatically with backgrounds.

At this point you don’t owe me an apology. I just hope that after this incident you can really start working and living with the essences of a truly liberal and creative individual. Inspire changes and end stereotypes. Start new trends and break old patterns. Embrace and not segregate. Do the work.

I had been away from Hong Kong and the industry for a few years now. It breaks me heart that I have to write this sort of open letter when it’s already 2018. I want to make this industry a safer, nicer and more accepting place to work in when I return. I want members of the LGBT community in Hong Kong, who have been so supportive of me and my music, to also have safer and nicer working environment in their respective lives.

I don’t mind coming off as an over-reacting petty bitch with no sense of humour if my message finally comes through and everyone, including you, “gets it”. I rather have no sense of humour than a bad one.

To all the contestants of the show. If anyone ever asks you if you are gay and you are not ready to discuss, it’s OK to stand up for yourself and say this: “It’s a rude question to begin with. You have no right to get an answer from me to begin with. And it doesn’t matter. It SHOULDN’T matter. It’s 2018. I hope one day I can use my craft to inspire the world and to make this become a non-issue.”

But if you are ready to be open, you have my complete support and love.

Let’s hope that through acceptance, learning and effort, one day there will no longer be any “controversial questions”. Wouldn’t we like that Eric?

Yours truly,
Pong

#LGBT
#homophobia
#safeworkplace
#中文版稍後會有
Eric Kwok 郭偉亮

【宇宙最雋永❤️關於愛的故事-猜猜我有多愛你】
#暖烘烘新書出版 #你想和我做朋友嗎
#猜猜我有多愛你側背袋禮物組一次滿足三個願望
　　
"I love you right up to the moon-and back."
我愛你，從這裡一直到月亮，再繞回來
　　
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愛有多長？愛多有寬？愛有多高？愛有多遠？
　　
抽象的不可見的愛，卻可以靠眼神，用語言，以及一個深深久久的擁抱，讓不可見的愛變成溢滿胸口暖流。
　　
每當我說：「猜猜我有多愛你？」，豔寶就會回答：「好多好多，一直到月亮那麼多」，我笑了，她也笑了。
　　
我感謝Sam McBratney爺爺創造出這一對大小兔子，讓所有羞怯說愛的靈魂都有所解脫，雖然山姆爺爺於今年逝世，但是我想大小兔子之間關於愛的言語將會流傳到很多個世紀之後。
　　
很高興上誼出版社將山姆爺爺給世人最後的禮物《Will You Be My Friend?》翻譯成中文版，讓大小書迷再一次大小兔子之間迷人的情感連結。
　　
但是這一次所呈現的不僅是親情，更刻畫了純粹無瑕的動人友情。
　　
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大兔子忙碌，小兔子獨自外出探險，遇見太陽底下自己的影子
，小水漥中自己的倒影，有些落寞地喃喃自語：「都只是我自己」。
　　
正當惆悵時，他在多雲山中、石楠叢裡，遇見一支和他一樣大小卻毛色雪白的小兔子。
　　
無須介紹，沒有隔閡，他們自然而然地玩在一起，奔跑、跳躍、捉迷藏。
　　
突然間，他們找不到彼此了，小兔子只好再次落寞地回到大兔子身邊，但是依然興奮的分享自己交到新朋友，雖然不知道何時會在見面。
　　
沒想到，一轉身，這個新朋友就躲在小兔子身後。
　　
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山姆爺爺用兩隻小兔子之間的互動，呈現出「友情」的直覺與純粹，試想孩子交朋友的過程不就是這樣嗎？
　　
不需要太多的自我介紹，沒有任何的價值評斷，更沒有身分貴賤，互動、遊戲、聊天都是那樣的單純。
　　
也就是如此的單純，幼年時的友誼才讓人雋永也讓人刻骨銘心。
　　
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＃工商服務時間
　　
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❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
💪💪💪💪💪

(Update: 中文繹版連結：https://www.facebook.com/329728177143445/posts/1800273350088913/)

“An open letter to Eric Kwok, and for everyone re homophobia, discrimination and bullying”

Dear Eric,

Imagine this. You are one of the contestants on a TV talent show. You are sitting in a room with other hopefuls and one of the judges walks into the room and demanded this: “Raise your hand if you are not homophobic.”

I’m very sure you will raise your hand.

You don’t have to answer me whether or not you really are homophobic. But stay with the feeling inside your mind. How do you feel?

Your feelings are most likely the same as the feelings of your contestants when you walked into a room and asked them to raise their hands to declare their sexual orientation publicly. Because in this day and age, homophobia is just as “controversial” as homosexuality, if not more.

The reason why I’m writing this open letter to you is because after reading your apology, I want to take the opportunity to address to you, and everyone out there, the need for proper etiquette regarding LGBT issues, and to address the forms of micro-aggression, bullying and discrimination the LGBT community faces everyday especially in the workplace.

I’m taking this incident seriously because from my personal experience, this is not just a one-time slip-up for you.

I remember long time ago I was so looking forward to meeting and working with you because you are, after all, Eric Kwok the great songwriter.

You were very friendly when we talked privately. Then I started to notice how once there were audiences, media or other people around and when the cameras were turned on, you would start making insinuating and demeaning gay jokes about me and in front of me. Jokes and comments even my closest friends wouldn’t dare to make in public.

At first, I didn’t really pay too much attention. I just brushed it off as juvenile and trivial. In fact, I had been so used to these jokes since growing up that I learned not to react much.

However, as time progressed and we worked on more occasions, the same thing would happen repeatedly. The teasing and the stereotypical gay jokes continued and you would make sure that the spotlight would fall on me afterwards. The jokes no longer felt light. They felt hostile, even vindictive.

In fact, it felt like bullying.

One of these incidents was well documented in tabloids back then and you can still look it up yourself on the internet.

I came to the realization that it was not just a one-time thing. I don’t know if it’s intentional or unintentional but it’s definitely a habit and a pattern.

So many questions would be in my mind every time after working with you. Why does Eric do that every time? Is he picking on me? Does he hate me? Is he homophobic? Does he think homosexuality is something funny? Does he do this to other people too? Did I do something that pissed him off? I remember I was nothing but courteous. So why do I deserve this?

I had no answers for all of these questions. All I knew was I became fearful of working with you, dreading what words would fall out of your mouth to put me in an awkwardly embarassing position. But still I tried to give you the benefit of the doubt. You’re from California you shouldn’t be homophobic. I even defended you in my head by telling myself to loosen up.

But it’s not just you. Throughout my years in the entertainment industry, I have encountered and endured so many chauvinistic “tough guys” who like to use homosexuality as a laughing stock or source of bad comedy which were all discriminating and demeaning, yet not funny.

It’s not only me. I’m sure many people of the LGBT community face this everyday in their workplace. People around them would claim their intentions were harmless but we all knew deep down that these “jokes” have the power to put people someone in an embarrassing, inferior and even threatening positions.

We kept quiet and tolerated. Sometimes we even felt obligated to laugh along just so we couldn’t afford to look “petty” or “stiff”, especially in front of people of higher authority and stature.

So Eric I want to ask you.

Why have you been so obsessed with my sexuality all these years?

Why are you so fascinated by other people’s sexuality?

Why is being gay such a huge issue to you even to this day that you had to make it the first thing you asked your contestants?

Why you also had to specifically make a post on social media about that fact you questioned people about their sexuality?

Why do you take so much pride publicly in your ability to guess who are the gay contestants even when they weren’t ready to share that information?

And most of all why do you find all this to be so funny?

To begin with one’s sexual orientation is a very personal thing which others have no right to intrude, even in the entertainment industry where you are supposed to be fine with “controversy”.

This is for you and everyone out there: using your power and authority to demand someone to declare his or her sexual orientation, especially in a work environment, is ancient, barbaric and unacceptable.

Kicking someone out of the closet is just pure evil.

The fact you did what you did, especially with your stature and on broadcast TV, is not only wrong, but also you are telling the Hong Kong audience that it’s alright to continue this form of intrusion and micro aggression that the LGBT community wants to see gone.

You’re leading a very poor example by giving Hong Kong audience the impression that being gay is still a taboo.

How are your contestants, who are boys of young age, going to offer new perspectives to the Hong Kong audience under your guidance if you perpetuate stereotyping and demonstrate to them that being gay is still an issue?

I feel sorry for any contestants who are in fact gay sitting in that room that day too. They must have been traumatized seeing the way you forced your inquisition. The impression you left them with is that the entertainment industry is still a very unfriendly place for gays. Is that what you want them to think?

But most of all, it’s the attitude, tone and manner with which you shared about this incident on social media, giving people the impression that any matter regarding sexual orientation is still something shameful and laughable, which is on top of list the thing that the LGBT community fights hard everyday to change.

When you said in your apology you “have great respect for gay people, especially their hard fight for equality” I became baffled as what you did, in the past to me or in that room to the boys, is the exact thing that makes the LGBT community’s ongoing fight for equality so difficult.

Putting people down, perpetuate stereotypes, heckling and ridiculing yet making it look OK is anything but liberal and respectful, or Californian. I don’t see any “entertainment values” that are of good taste if they are made up at the expense of other people’s struggle.

If this incident happened in America, where you grew up, you would’ve gotten yourself in such hot waters that you probably can’t get out of.

I just want you and everyone out there to know that it’s not okay. And it never was. Never will be.

Being “as liberal as it gets” is great. Having gay friends is great too. Having dinner with your gay friends is absolutely fabulous! Playing all these cards to avoid being labelled as “homophobic” is very convenient. But having class, empathy, kindness and authentic respect is a completely different territory. These don’t come automatically with backgrounds.

At this point you don’t owe me an apology. I just hope that after this incident you can really start working and living with the essences of a truly liberal and creative individual. Inspire changes and end stereotypes. Start new trends and break old patterns. Embrace and not segregate. Do the work.

I had been away from Hong Kong and the industry for a few years now. It breaks me heart that I have to write this sort of open letter when it’s already 2018. I want to make this industry a safer, nicer and more accepting place to work in when I return. I want members of the LGBT community in Hong Kong, who have been so supportive of me and my music, to also have safer and nicer working environment in their respective lives.

I don’t mind coming off as an over-reacting petty bitch with no sense of humour if my message finally comes through and everyone, including you, “gets it”. I rather have no sense of humour than a bad one.

To all the contestants of the show. If anyone ever asks you if you are gay and you are not ready to discuss, it’s OK to stand up for yourself and say this: “It’s a rude question to begin with. You have no right to get an answer from me to begin with. And it doesn’t matter. It SHOULDN’T matter. It’s 2018. I hope one day I can use my craft to inspire the world and to make this become a non-issue.”

But if you are ready to be open, you have my complete support and love.

Let’s hope that through acceptance, learning and effort, one day there will no longer be any “controversial questions”. Wouldn’t we like that Eric?

Yours truly,
Pong

#LGBT
#homophobia
#safeworkplace
#中文版稍後會有
Eric Kwok 郭偉亮

Song written and sang by Nate Olson 黄智祥
Check out his Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/natezhixiang/?hc_ref=SEARCH

中文：
That's right, 我真的这么帅
你没有看过这么厉害的老外
我中文还不错，我什么都能说
追着我的女生当然有很多

That's why, 你每一次说嗨
我假装不是每一天一直都在
想到你的眼睛你的脸并且
让你觉得我跟你也没有那么亲切

But I, 不想把你伤害
根本不想让你觉得我希望你离开
So baby 让我告诉你我为什么我的心只能够因为你而感觉这么高兴 yeah

你在，我才能感觉alright
钱，其他的女生不能让我想要离开
我明明就是你的一直在这里等你的
希望你也不会决定要放弃了

我也希望你不会有压力，哦，baby yeah-ah
最后当然就是你的决定
但是你已经知道我根本离不开你，
所以祈求你接受我的心

Now I, 根本离不开
所以希望你有一天可以明白
我和你在一起要看我的运气
但是我相信一定会是reality

信赖，代表我的爱
就像月亮在以前的那时代
你问我爱你有多深，问我爱你有几分
你要是真的想知道我告诉你，一百遍

I know you know that we're gonna take it slow
but I just wanna know
baby where we gonna go
我们一起走， please我们一起走

So why, 你暂时还不在
我的身边come on baby girl don't be shy
我们一定会很幸福 and I really don't believe you
当你看着我说 I guess I'm just not meant to be with you

我也希望你不会有压力，哦，baby yeah-ah
最后当然就是你的决定
但是你已经知道我根本离不开你，
所以祈求你接受我的心

我想说真的不能爱你更多
但是这一句其实曾经也有想过
后来才知道，那时候就还好
做好你的男生 thats really what its all about
我给你我的心，只要你也愿意
我以耐心好好等你最后的决定
每天每个小时每一分钟都要保持
你在我的心里，这样才是好事

我也希望你不会有压力，哦，baby yeah-ah
最后当然就是你的决定
但是你已经知道我根本离不开你，
所以祈求你接受我的心

English:
That's right, I really am this handsome
You've never seen a foreigner as amazing as I am
My Chinese isn't bad, I can say most anything
Obviously lots of girls are trying to chase me

That's why, whenever you say hi
I pretend I dont spend every day
Thinking of your eyes and your face and
Make you think that you and I aren't that close

But I, dont want to hurt you
And definitely dont want you to think I want you to leave
So baby let me tell you why my heart can only feel this happy because of you


Only with you here, can I feel alright
Money, other women could never make me want to leave
I'm completely yours and I'm waiting here for you
Hope you also wont decide to give up on us


And I hope you wont feel any pressure, oh baby yeah-ah-ah
In the end it's all your own decision
But you already know that I could never leave you
So I'm asking you to accept my heart


Now I, could never ever leave
So I hope that one day you can understand
Me and you together, have to see how my luck goes
But I believe it will definitely be a reality


Trust, it represents my love
Just like the moon in the last generation
Ask me how deep I love you, ask me how many degrees I love you
And if you really want know I'll tell you again and again


I know you know that we're gonna take it slow
but I just wanna know
baby where we gonna go
So let's go together, please, let us go together


So why, you still arent here
Standing by my side, come on baby girl don't be shy
We will definitely be real happy, and I really don't believe you
When you look at me and say I guess I'm just not meant to be with you


And I hope you wont feel any pressure, oh baby yeah-ah-ah
In the end it's all your own decision
But you already know that I could never leave you

I want to say that I couldn't love you anymore,
But thats something I've wanted to say before
Afterward I realize, back then it wasnt near as much
Being your man, thats really what its all about
I'll give you my heart, as long as you are willing
I'll be here, patiently waiting for your final choice
Every day, every hour, every minute,
Always have to keep you in my heart
This is the only good thing

And I hope you wont feel any pressure, oh baby yeah-ah-ah
In the end it's all your own decision
But you already know that I could never leave you
So I'm asking you to accept my heart



-Logan Beck Inc. Films-