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紀律就是，堅持去做那些需要完成的，而不只是那些自己想做的。
Discipline is constantly doing what needs to be done, instead of doing what you want to do.
卡特教頭 (Coach Carter), 2005
中文電影介紹：http://bit.ly/1HiTKd4
水某：我只看到Channing Tatum
水尢：真沒紀律
真人真事改編，敘述一位當年頗負盛名的運動員Carter，接下了他母校的邀請而成為該校的籃球教練。但籃球員的成員，大多卻都是該校的問題學生，使得管教變成了一大挑戰。明白球員們欠缺的不是才能，而是紀律與方向，Carter教頭該如何讓這群孩子們長大，成爲能夠為自己負責的大人呢？今天下午16:10，Star Movies要播出喔！
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「如果你不管教你的孩子們，那你是不愛他們。愛孩子們的父母，小心地糾正，並從小引導他們。父母愛孩子的方式，就是在孩子們還沒引起嚴重問題的時候，就給予足夠的關懷來糾正不良好的行為。」
“If you don’t discipline your children, you don’t love them. Parents who love their children carefully correct and guide them from an early age—they show their love by caring enough to correct bad behavior before it can cause serious trouble.” ~Proverbs 13:24 (Randy Reed Paraphrased Version)
以上這段，是我自己從英文翻成中文，如果跟經典不同，非常抱歉，因為我查不到整段通用的中譯。這個版本，好像有經過修改，跟其它版本似乎不同。然而，我喜歡這一段的講法，特別是把管教（discipline）跟關懷（caring）放在一起。
我最近跟一位朋友談到，我很少直接對孩子說「不要」、「不行」。因為我花很多時間陪孩子，所以我可以柔柔地，用關懷的語氣，跟孩子討論事情。
「你如果自己跑到馬路上，會怎麼樣？…對，有可能被車子撞到…所以要等爸爸，爸爸可以保護你…喔，你也想保護爸爸，那好啊，你跟我一起走，你就可以保護我了…謝謝你要保護我…」
這是我跟孩子的互動，慢慢的、溫溫的、感恩的、玩耍的、沒那麼正經的…。很多事在發生以前，我們就進行討論；很多事在發生以後，我們也進行討論。我知道，一般的父母，如果花在孩子身上的時間不夠，自己的情緒也沒控制好，就容易常用命令句，「不要…」、「不行…」就容易出口，然後，常有爭執，然後，雙方的怒氣就慢慢地加溫。
對我來說，當我在意孩子，花時間陪伴、關心孩子，我就是同時在管教他。我給孩子的空間很大，我也常跟孩子胡鬧玩耍，但是我常跟孩子討論行為與行為的後果，以避免孩子讓自己受到傷害。畢竟，我之所以管教孩子，是因為我關心他。
在遇到困境之前，先關懷。在面對困境的時候，給予陪伴。在困境之後，持續鼓勵。如此，管教與關懷，都在生活中一起進行。
我不見得很會帶孩子，不過，我知道父母對孩子的影響力最大的時候，就是大概青少年以前，甚至更早，所以我現在花了更多時間陪孩子，比一般家長多。只要跟孩子在一起，我就盡可能專心陪他。所以，聊天談話的時間多，但是我並沒有像一般父母很熱衷教導孩子認知，孩子雖然很會講話，但不見得能背誦很多知識。我只是要他，跟我在一起的時候，感到快樂，然後我們一起用活活潑潑的動機，去探索這個世界上的事物。
我不是基督徒，我目前沒有信仰任何宗教，但我尊重所有正面教化人心的智慧。管教與關懷的關係，這段經典把我想說的話，寫得明明白白，又讓我有更深一層的學習。
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改編自《我想傾聽你：懂得傾聽，學會不過度涉入，讓我們用更自在的陪伴豐富彼此》
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【國立臺灣大學109學年度畢業典禮 致詞代表 資訊工程學系韓哈斯】
Student Address, National Taiwan University Commencement 2021
International student Seth Austin Harding from Department of Computer Science and Information Engineering
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校長、教授、以及在螢幕前的各位同學，大家好。非常感謝臺大給我這個機會。我是韓哈斯，來自美國華盛頓特區。我會以自身的真實經驗出發，來跟大家分享臺大帶給我的收穫。
我當初為什麼選擇來台灣求學呢？我小時候非常喜歡看武打片，然後我十歲的時候去看了一部電影叫做「功夫熊貓」。這部電影成為了我最喜歡的電影，主角「阿波」的故事跟我的故事很像。我看完了之後就決定要開始學功夫，所以去了「美國武術學院」。那個時候我每天都聽旁邊的人講中文，到了高中我就決定開始學中文。當時我遇到了一位貴人，她是從台北到美國來教書的中文老師，她教的課是我當時最喜歡的課，我每天去她的教室跟好朋友練習。到了高中畢業時，我是全高中中文最好的非母語人士。同時，我第二喜歡的課程是電腦科學，那時候我是程式能力數一數二的學生。後來在成功錄取夢寐以求的學校：臺灣大學之後，我感到雀躍不已，因為我既可以繼續學習中文，也可以持續在世界頂尖的學府中，往電腦科學的方向精進自我。
不過老實說，當我回顧大一的時期，我也曾迷失自我。雖然我修了很多很多的中文課，但是我那時只聽得懂大概一半的課程內容。跟大家對美國人的印象不同，我其實很害羞，也很害怕舉手提問，我甚至不太敢參與社交，所以當時朋友也很少。我開始想家，也變得有一點憂鬱。那時籃球是我唯一的紓壓方式。
但更不幸的是，我在打籃球時弄傷了我的前十字韌帶，做了兩次手術，需要一年半才能恢復。許多的負面情緒壓得我喘不過氣。我被困在人生的低谷，不知如何是好。我覺得我的中文不夠好，我也被診斷出失眠跟ADHD，另外，美國高中的數學太簡單了，來這邊不夠用。種種壓力讓我足不出戶，找不到自己的人生方向。後來，我向臺大心輔中心以及我的心理醫師尋求協助，然後我也開始跟系上有更多互動。有一位教授叫徐宏民跟我說，"Never give up"，雖然那時候我覺得這句話太過於簡化了我的問題，不過，在我仔細思考了一個禮拜之後，我下定決心，發誓不讓自己被這些事擊敗。我決定要克盡全力，認真做好每件事。這是我人生的轉捩點，我開始變得異常自律。當時廖世偉教授和洪士灝系主任帶我進入它們的研究室鑽研學術。這重燃了我對資訊工程的熱忱，提醒了我當初會愛上這個領域的原因。我開始研究人工智慧以及區塊鏈，也開始跟其他系上同學交朋友，一起成立臺大人工智慧應用社NTUAI。NTUAI現在是校內頗具規模的技術研究社團，致力於推廣人工智慧給任何對該領域有熱忱的學生。歡迎加入NTUAI，可以掃描我們的QR CODE。
最近，由於疫情的緣故，我已經一年半沒回美國了。但是沒關係，因為我已經找到了我第二個家。我很愛臺大，以及台灣的人事物。雖然我經歷了人生的低潮，但這裡的一切總是給我滿滿的祝福與協助。最後，我想送給大家「功夫熊貓」裡的一句台詞： "You just need to believe"。只要用樂觀的態度去面對困難，就有能力改變自己，甚至改變身旁所愛的人。就像阿波的父親說的，"心誠則靈，只要你相信，點石就能成金。根本沒有什麼秘笈。只有你。"謝謝大家。
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President, professors, and classmates, I'm very honored to be here. Thank you to NTU for giving me this opportunity. My name's Seth Austin Harding, and I'm from the D.C. metropolitan area. I'm going to tell a real story that's personal but that's relatable and what I see as the real me.
What motivated and guided me to take my undergraduate studies in Taiwan? When I was very young, I really loved watching kung fu movies, and when I was 10 years old, I went to the theater to watch "Kung Fu Panda". This became my favorite movie as I felt like the story of the main character Po was one to which I could very much relate. After watching this movie, I decided that I wanted to start learning kung fu, so I went to the United States Wushu Academy. At the time, I began hearing Mandarin on a daily basis, so when I was in high school, I decided to begin formally studying Chinese. It ended up being my Chinese teacher from Taipei who was my favorite teacher who taught my favorite class, so I decided I'd hang out in the Chinese classroom every day and practice lots. By the time graduation came around, I had attained the highest proficiency in Chinese among any non-native speaker in my school. My second favorite class was computer science, and I ended up attaining among the best coding skills in my school. After getting accepted to the school of my dreams -- National Taiwan University -- I felt honored, humbled, and excited; I could now spend time at among the world's finest universities studying Chinese and at the same time advancing my knowledge of computer science.
But when I look back at my freshman year, to be honest with you, I didn't know what I was doing. Despite having taken very many Chinese classes, when I went to the NTU lectures, I understood only about half of what the teachers were saying. Contrary to most people's impressions of an American, I was actually too shy to raise my hand, to ask questions, or to even meet with teachers after class, so I had very few friends at the time. I started to become homesick and depressed. At that time, I found that basketball was the only way I knew of relieving my stress. However, while playing basketball, I had torn my ACL and it would take two surgeries and a year and a half in time to fully recover. At this point, I felt caught between a rock and a hard place. In fact, this was the lowest point of my life, and I didn't know what to do. I felt like my Chinese wasn't good enough, I had been diagnosed with insomnia and ADHD, and I felt like the math taught in America was too simple to allow for me to keep up with my classmates. I was under immense pressure, and at this time, I lost any sense of purpose or direction. Later on, I went to seek help from NTU counseling, from my psychiatrist, and from my department. I reached out to Professor Winston Hsu from CSIE, and he told me this: "Never give up"; it was such an oversimplified way to approach such a complex series of problems, I had thought. However, I pondered these words intensely for one week, and by the end of that week, I had made a firm decision. This would NOT be another example of me giving up. I decided to go all out, to work diligently and passionately on all tasks at hand. This was the turning point of my life; I started to discipline myself to a very high degree. At this time, I met my then-to-become advisors Professor Shih-Wei Liao and Professor Shih-Hao Hung and entered their labs to begin research. Finally, the passion that I had for computer science that I had previously held in high school was kindled again, and I was finally reminded why I loved this field. I began my research life in blockchain and AI, and at the time I entered the lab, I also began creating NTUAI. NTUAI is now a large and highly successful NTU club that is dedicated to the research and public understanding of AI. Welcome one and all to join us; please scan our QR code here.
For a year and a half I haven't returned to America because of covid. But not to worry; I have found my second home, away from home. I love it here in NTU and I cherish all of the things I've had the privilege to experience in Taiwan. I've gone through the most difficult of struggles in my life here, but I've also had the most fortunate and blessed of experiences. To conclude, I'd like to quote a line from "Kung Fu Panda": "You just need to believe". As long as you are willing to adopt an optimistic attitude in facing challenges and hardships, you may become a positive force in changing the lives of those around you as well as your own life. It all depends on how you view it; just like what Po's father says, "there is no secret ingredient. It's just you." Thank you, everyone.
詳見：
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这一期DAYDAY和黄布要一起聊聊中英美管教孩子的方式，他们小时候父母会怎么惩罚他们和对熊孩子的看法。
In this episode Dayday and Blair talk about discipline, how their parents taught them when they were little and how they feel about parenting.
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你對愛情動作片情有獨鍾，卻又沒有管道嗎？
從今以後不用再靠別人了，這次就讓蒟蒻告訴你
英文好不好到底有多重要！看完你就明白了
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本單元出現的單字：
SM / BDSM
Bondage discipline dominance submission sadism and masochism
綑綁、調教、主導、臣服、虐待狂與被虐待狂
女王系列 / Femdom
國王系列 / Maledom
深喉嚨 / Deep throat
暴力口交 / Face Fucking
老二甩巴掌 / Cock slap
打屁股 / Spanking
拳交 / Fisting
菊花拳交 / Anal Fisting
蛋蛋折磨 / Ballbuster / Ball torture
精液 / Semen
吞精 / Semen Swallow
二次折磨 / Post orgasm torture
殘忍 / Brutal
折磨 / Torture
羞辱 / Humiliation
奴隸 / Slave
被迫觀賞 / Cuckold
3P / Threesome
4P / Foursome
雜交 / Orgy
天體營 / Nudist camps
多男一女 / Gangbang
集體顏射 / Bukkake
多女一男 / Lucky guy
CFNM / Clothed female and naked males
雙人 / Double
三人 / triple
集體 / group
派對 / Party
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常實況一些PS3、PS4、PC的遊戲
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