"ชีวิตคนเราต้องประสบความสำเร็จไหมคะพี่"
น้องนิสิตคนหนึ่งเดินเข้ามาถามหลังบรรยายเสร็จ คำถามนี้อวลอยู่ในหัวของผมจนถึงบ้าน ตัวคำถามเองก็น่าสนใจ แต่สิ่งที่ผมสนใจมากไปกว่า 'คำตอบ' คือ 'ที่มา' ของคำถามนี้
อะไรทำให้หนุ่มสาววัยยี่สิบต้นถามคำถามนี้ออกมา?
...Continue Reading" Do we have to be successful in life, brother
A student walked in to ask after the lecture. This question is in my head to home. The question is interesting. But what I am more interested in ' answer ' is ' source ' of this question.
What makes a twenty-year-old girl ask this question?
I don't think she is the only one who has a question if it is a representative of the same age of the same age and grievance.
Is it possible that the root of this question is the tiredness from trying to chase success, pressure from seeing the 'good life' of those who look like successful fast surround themselves, including carrying expectations from Parents, relatives, teachers, teachers, including society. You must be smart.
Does the world have space to help? Announce a lot of 'success'. TV, online media, clip, interview. Anyone who has done anything will have space to tell their own story.
But -- the world has so little space for 'failure'
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When someone hasn't done anything or incomplete, disappointed, so he feels alone, humiliated and doesn't know where to put these ' destruction ' in the world. When they look around, there are only areas of success.
' broken ' is kept in my heart. I don't go anywhere. Slowly spread to eat. Feeling good for yourself. I can't talk to friends. It's not consecrated with parents. Or encourage you to be more diligent. Be kind. I say " you can do it. Fight him "
But no one consent to us to lose.
When the destruction becomes a personal thing to keep, it's like a bad leavening that gradually works in the body. It's a bad disease that eats our heart. We are bored of the world. I feel bad about myself. It's a grey. This symptom has happened
We feel bad that this life has to 'win' only.
But 'loser' still happens every day. Btw, everyone will lose one day.
We focus too little on ' failure '. That's the cause of sickness in modern society.
When someone is heartbroken, I think it's a little bit. You should come back to be strong soon. When someone fails, we will tell him that they will be successful.
We barely care about ' failure ' in the present, but always look at ' success ' in the future.
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An important area that should be together is a space for losers and failure, not a depressing area where we can talk about disappointment without being shy or even tell a failed attempt.
This can happen. Attitude to failure must change first. It's not embarrassing. It's not bad things. It's a share. Learn from each other. Embracing each other's feelings. Hold each other.
We should create a society where #failure is normal. Allow children to fail. Allow friends to fail and help to support each other through the beauty within the mind.
A society that has space for failure. When we miss, we will dare to tell the mistake. There is no suffering. No need to be embarrassed. Don't rush. We feel like this normal. We will not spread to the sickness.
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" Do we have to be successful in life, brother
What I care more about is the emotion of the person who asks, which I feel that she carries the pressure that 'must be successful'
I replied to her "not necessary I mean success in the definition of normal people" but our lives need to be happy. We are born to live the way we like, not the way others like, but we have to answer ourselves first that life. What I like to be and try to build it without anyone's ruler to measure "
'life we like' for me, it may consist of failure because what we fail may be what we want to try. What we miss. It may be learning. People who disappoint us may be good memories in some aspects.
We can lose, we can miss and we have a life that we like. In the midst of those misses. It's not strange.
But one person can be strong in his own mind. It has to go through a fragile time at a young age. These days that people around you have an important role in helping him not be too deep from falling down.
We may be wrong to think that 'success makes life happy'. The opposite, life is longing, but success may be a severe suffering life.
Life that allows yourself to fail. It's a happy life.
If we live in a society that is not crazy, success, then we can like our lives with both ingredients. That is -- normal life.
While there is not quite a lot of ' space for failure ', we may have to create this space first. Allow ourselves to fail, disappoint, defeated, assemble it to be part of life without pushing away. Don't try to live life. Only doing whatever you Only only.
You can lose... embrace it
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In terms of society, it's time to review things that we can help to be ' hungry for success '. What brings us to the point where we need to question the pressure of life. We should do. How to unfold the weight on their shoulders
Because it's the end, the society that focuses on success will not create ' successful ', but it will create a lot of ' patients ' from the pressure.
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" Do we have to succeed in life
Should both succeed and fail because that's real life
The important thing is don't succeed and have a life that we don't like and don't forget that we can fail and still like your life.
When we don't allow anyone to define success and fail, we may see that the answer to this question is not ' must be successful ', but the answer is
We will be 'successful' according to whose definition.
Someone else or yourself
If it's your own definition, some failure can be part of a successful life.Translated
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