There’s only really one secret to how we encourage our children to talk confidently - appreciating their IDEAS. We always value our children’s ideas because they are original, fresh and priceless. They are so precious that nothing could add up to their value! We never put words into our children’s mouths because this will stop their creativity and interrupt their thinking. What we do instead is have discussions and ask questions to encourage them to speak their own mind. This will get their creative juices flowing and stimulate their thinking. We shouldn’t underestimate children’s thinking because you can’t imagine their ability, and most of the time, they will surprise you! All this talk with children may seem comedic, but if you take them more seriously, you will see that there are actually a lot of things that we can learn from our children!
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Plus, sometimes, the things that children say may not make sense to you, but remember, there will always be an explanation behind it. Just because you don’t understand it doesn’t mean that it is of no value. They are just explaining something very useful but in their own way.
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Another important thing to consider is LANGUAGE. Coming from a family with a mixed background, our children are exposed to many different languages. But, we never force or push them to speak any particular language. Instead, we let them be comfortable with their own choice, because for us, it’s not the language that matters - it’s the ideas that are INVALUABLE! We are not bothered if they don’t speak in a thick British accent or in a cool American slang like you see in the movies & we are not even ashamed if they speak broken Malay or if they speak in Kelantanese Dialect. They have all their life to master the language & polish their grammar! But, if we don’t start encouraging them to speak from an early age, then all those languages are useless! You can be born to talk, but without ideas, you can’t talk! You can be born to write, but without ideas, you can’t write! You could even be born to cook, but without ideas, you can’t cook!
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Yours truly,
Mrs Mom - a mother of 3 amazing kids...sharing through experience!
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