【愚人算命，智人改命】
"Does your child have an irregular heartbeat or a hole in his heart?"
I asked my client, after glancing at her son's Bazi.
Back in July, I wrote a post on the terrifying Kawasaki disease among young children. It got 75 shares.
That post attracted more parents with children of various health issues, to contact me in the past months.
My client replied, no abnormality was detected at birth.
3 weeks later, when I was analysing her Bazi, she told me her son's recent echocardiogram revealed a hole in his heart.
The doctor said it was very likely due to a birth defect, and not the Kawasaki disease that the son was recovering from.
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When I heard it, gratitude and admiration for my Shifu rose in my heart.
He was the teacher, who showed me how to identify if a Bazi had heart issues.
Shifu often chided me for having it too easy when it comes to learning Chinese Metaphysics. #Shifusostrict #wheregoteasy
After Shifu's father, a well-respected geomancer & TCM practitioner, passed away, Shifu had to go the rocky route of verifying everything he learnt and discovered on his own.
In his late 20s, he spent a good 2 years knocking on doors of HDB flats, to read people's Bazi and audit home Feng Shui for free, in Yishun, Chong Pang, Woodlands, Khatib, Admiralty, Tanjong Pagar and Ang Mo Kio estates.
Cladded in jeans and a T-shirt, with a backpack and a box file, Shifu would painstakingly analyse any Bazi and Chinese name given to him.
#whyhenocomeBukitHoSwee
Doors slammed on his face, dogs barked at him, old people shunned him, threats of calling the police were hurled at him.
There were also kind-hearted souls who gave Shifu an angpow as a token of their appreciation, or offered him dinner.
Every time Shifu reached home, he would be starving and perspiring like a polar bear.
One guy student (my senior) went door knocking with Shifu once, and was scared to go again the next day.
Shifu sometimes misses those days, and thinks none of us would do it with him. He said it was excellent on-the-ground training for you never know what you are going to get.
I volunteered myself.
I used to do door-to-door surveys for a market research company in my undergrad days.
But Shifu said I'm cotton candy soft and would run away the next day like his student. 😟
Till this day, Shifu still has clients from his HDB knocking days.
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Behind every good Feng Shui master, there are many untold stories of pain and sacrifice for him to achieve that level of mastery.
Few people cared about that.
Too many people waste too much time looking at us up and down suspiciously, and disregarding Chinese Metaphysics as old wives' tale.
They do not have the patience and scientific intelligence to suss out the real from the fakes. So they take one bamboo pole and whack the whole boat upside down.
The opportunity cost for them, however, is the chance to turn around their children's lives.
Many parents tell me: As a parent, I naturally want the best for my child.
True for some of them. Lying through the teeth for others. #連自己都騙
Not all parents love their children. Not all parents make sensible decisions.
Sometimes, wanting the best and doing their best mean two different universes.
There are clients who wanted me to read their children's Bazi, but their spouse object. Despite the clients having positive results.
A workshop participant was experiencing a problem during her pregnancy. I peeked into her family future, and I realise the problem at hand is just the tip of the iceberg.
I told her to look for my Shifu. He would have the merits to bail her family out from their difficult future, before it is too late.
She didn't.
She was confident about Shifu's skills in Wealth Feng Shui, read that he had helped a client's father recover from cancer but she had never read anything of his abilities in helping an unborn child from his testimonials.
#facepalm #whydidntsheask
Another lady didn't want to implement my Feng Shui recommendations for her child. She told it would be difficult.
I looked into her eyes as she spoke. Liar. She didn't want to spend money on the mini renovation for her least favourite child.
(By looking at the parent's and child's Bazi, it is easy to tell which child the parent favours.)
I spent a good 20 minutes, explaining again the adverse effects the room Feng Shui had on her child's future. It was already rearing its ugly head. Her disciplinary action had never worked and will never work, given such Feng Shui.
I reminded her the duty of a responsible parent. I didn't mince my words. You know me.
I could have just taken my fees and go. Who care what you want to do with your child's future? It's your child, your problem, not mine.
But coming from a single-parent family, not only do I care about children development, I am deeply concerned about what my motherland will become when these children grow up.
We already have a plummeting birth rate.
Every child's future saved, is one less problem for our society, and one more superhero for Singapore.
Let's not have too many broken adults, when we can build strong and compassionate children.
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The moment the child is conceived, with both parents' Bazi on hand, a competent Chinese Metaphysics practitioner can foretell the development of the foetus.
E.g. will the foetus have Down syndrome or other medical condition?
Will the mother experience miscarriage?
Will the foetus grow healthily?
How difficult will the pregnancy be for the mother?
How will the family fortune change?
What can the parents do?
If the practitioner had audited the home Feng Shui, more potential problems will be identified early in time, and resolved before it manifest in the pregnancy.
We are what we live in.
Some home Feng Shui problems handicap the couple from having a faithful and fulfilling marriage, including the lack of children.
Some Bazi, on the other hand, experience a downturn in their fates, after having children.
In cases I have seen where parents have sickly children, some causes are parents who committed much killing.
E.g. running a puppy mill, a fishing farm, a prawning facility.
The other day, I had a client who had a Down syndrome child. I applauded her determination in giving birth to the child. Her husband, however, wanted to abort.
My advice to any parent who want to kill their flesh and blood, because it's not up to their standard:
Don't even think about it.
Some children are our karmic debtors. When they come as sickly offspring, it means the debt you owe them require a long and intensive effort to repay.
If you kill your child, the karmic debt you owe your child will escalate. It will NOT disappear.
An aborted baby stays around to haunt his parents. For as long as the parents live. Or until the baby had taken vengeance.
No such thing as the killed baby vanishing into thin air after some time.
Violence never bring permanent peace.
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"When should we do a Bazi reading for our child?"
As soon as possible.
It is already difficult enough to raise a child, with both parents working.
Money is never enough. Time is never sufficient. Sleep is always lacking.
When we know how to help our children with their Bazi needs, the mutual understanding strengthens. We solve the problem right at the root, in the quickest time possible.
No more second guessing. No more quarrels.
Better performing children, happier parents.
As a mother, if I wish to get our child's Bazi read, my husband would have no chance to obstruct me from planning our child's future. (Not that my darling would.)
Because I'm also a 50% stakeholder, and I sacrifice my figure to carry our child in my uterus for freaking 9 months, shouldn't I have some say too? Not like I would blindly choose any Tom, Dick or Harry to read our child's Bazi. At most, I use my own money. 😄
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Any loving parent would wish to live to a ripe old age, to take care of the Down syndrome child.
From a Chinese Metaphysics point of view, if the child is at a very tender age, it is easier to minimise the impact of the extra chromosome, through Bazi analysis and Feng Shui.
What do we hope to achieve?
Better temperament. Better health. Improved social skills. Able to articulate better. Able to function as independently as possible. Attract more benefactors. Etc.
Aiming to live to 100 years old to take care of the child may be noble.
If you ask me, giving the child a positive environment to change his destiny is a wiser and more practical move.
But first, let's start with educating the parents on the wisdom behind Chinese Metaphysics.
