I have gray hair and I do touch ups on a regular basis because like her, I get unkind, unsolicited comments saying I should dye my hair because "itu uban sudah nampak ohhhh" and "nampak tua lor".
I don't have a illness like her. But I do have feelings.
I touch up also because I'm just a little OCD and can't stand the colour difference (I wish I was like my cousin Oswald whose grey hair grows beautifully all around his head. Mine just grows sparsely in different spots. So annoying)
This also reminds me of other comments saying I've got wrinkles and I have aged a lot since "those days".
Here's what I have to say.
I started out in this industry as young as 19 when I first joined a beauty pageant (was dared and won. No regrets joining) and started doing commercial ads.
Again I was 19.
I hosted my first TV show in my early 20s. I am now almost 40 years old.
2 decades and 3 kids later, here I am, still doing what I do- definitely older, more gray hair and wrinkles and so much harder to maintain a healthy weight.
When I'm being narcissistic or when insecurity kicks in, I've thought about non invasive procedures to slow down aging. I've looked at anti-aging products and creams and slapped them generously on my face.
But on most good days, I just use concealer and lipgloss to hide the dark undereye and enhance my pale lips and perform a few sun salutations and stretches to get my blood circulation going.
I am older. I do have gray hair and I am aging.
My husband loves me busuk and all, my children believe in me and my medical report shows I'm still doing ok health wise. Alhamdulillah.
So I am done getting worked up (or will try to ignore) the unnecessary comments about me looking old etc and accept the truth.
Everyday I'm grateful for another chance to love and give and receive.
This woman's response to hate is the best thing I've read all week...
