To those feeling dejected in their marriage or frustration with the legalities of divorce. Read this.
9 years ago, Dec 2010, I filed for divorce with the WP Syariah Courts.
7 lawyers, over MYR100K spent and 7 years later, July 2017, I finally got my divorce.
Best day of my life 💯 then. Second now, because I remarried 😄
However, the experience was bitter sweet and I am grateful for the support I received, new friends I made and most importantly the opportunity to discover and learn more about myself.
Going through this process gave me a first hand experience with our Syariah system and I realised how flawed, inefficient and backward it was.
Till today, I receive messages from countless number of women subjected to the system and find themselves defeated, disappointed and frustrated.
Hats off to all the NGO's for their hardwork pushing to create systemic changes especially Sister's in Islam. Many can say alot of things about them, but they were the only organisation which I witness fighting for real justice, fairness and to remove biases against women.
Many times I questioned the Universe, why me? Why did I have to go through this?
Halfway through in the 4th year, I somehow received an answer. This was my path to share, support, guide and inspire others so they don't feel despair, they don't feel beaten and that someone out there is truly rooting for them.
I wasn't sure how to help others in tangible ways apart from referring lawyers or to my guardian angel Kak Nik Elin Nik Rashid.
Now, I've decided that if to change the system will be the most difficult thing to do, then let me create a space where people both men and women can exchange their personal stories in a safe environment with the intentions to seek for support, guide, solutions and inspiration from others.
So, to those who are going through divorces, child custody battles, alimony battles, harta sepencarian battles etc join Change. Your choice and share your stories there.
To those who have gone through your experiences (and have come out the other side victorious - I don't mean that you were just successful in court but have managed to turn the adversity into something positive) thus, would like to add value and be part of the solution process I would like to invite you to join too.
It's time for change. Your choice.
Together, we can create a bigger ripple effect so our next generation can have a fairer, more just and unbiased Syariah family Court.
To those of you who have reached out to me over the years and those feeling helpless, this is for you ❤️
